I know a man whose marriage crashed after he discovered his wife has properties not far from where they were residing. Upon discovery, the marriage crashed and he relocated out of the country.

I heard about a man who was paying rent in a house built by his wife but he did not know until it became an open secret. Both of them were living together in that house. Untruthful dealings between couples seems to be the order of the day in many homes. What about paternity fraud?

The problem I see in such marriages starts with a lack of understanding about what the marital union is from the biblical standpoint. Some in marriage are not even born again to start with  despite going to church. If they don't know the God who instituted marriage, how will they pattern their marriage after his principles?

Marriage is a union of two to become one not a solo run.

The goal of God for bringing two together is to achieve unity of purpose, practice, pattern of living. In marriage, the two are meant to be a united force that nothing should divide not even money or properties.

If a man or woman is hiding something from his spouse, that person is not yet made perfect in love and has no reason to identify with a sacred institution  like marriage. Both are meant to be naked and not ashamed.

Our earthly marriage is meant to be a mirror or replica of the union that exist between the Godhead. Jesus said, "I and my Father are one"( John 10:30).

If you look at the marriage between Christ and the church, it exemplies a unique oneness that we're expected emulate in our marriages.

Marital union is not meant to be a solo run but a united force against the enemy as they fulfill the mandate of God on earth. One will chase a thousand but two will chase ten thousand.  

Dear single, If you are not ready to become one with your future partner, marriage is not for you yet.

Dear couples, you are in already. Let your journey into oneness start now by seeing each other as partners and not competitors. Be open to each other, decide together and pray together. If you can leave your life all alone, why did you marry?