I read about a man who sniffs his wife's panties to perceive odour of condoms after she returns from work or wherever she went.I have been privileged to handle issues between couples and one thing that has bedevilled most marriages today is lack of openness and trust between couples.

There are husbands with secrets they are keeping from their wives and vice versa. They lie to each other sweatlessly yet they pray together. How will God answer the prayers of couples who are not in agreement?

Openness and trust is one of the  building blocks of a happy marriage. To be tusted, you have to be open to your spouse. When openness becomes your culture, trust will be earned. One thing you should know is that trust is not given, it is earned. You need to have a track record of proven openness to earn trust.

The issue of trust is a two-way thing in marriage: both of you must prove to each other that you are trustworthy and you must trust each other If your marriage will work but do not forget that trust is earned not given.

Where openness becomes a culture, trust is established.

If trust is lost in your marriage and you both decide to restore it, be open to each other truthfully. As long as one of you remain on the lane of deceit, trust will be missing in your marriage.

From today, both of you should decide to deal openly. Do not struggle to be trusted, just be open, trust will flow in your direction.

Dear single, do not marry anyone you cannot trust. The moment you notice traits of untrustworthiness, lack of integrity and other character flaws rethink your decision. You have the privilege of making a good choice now by marrying someone who has shared core values along this line.