Proverbs19:11 Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. NLT
In one of the open heavens devotional that I read years back, Pastor E.A. Adeboye told the story of how he got angry with his wife while on a journey several years ago. The wife was equally angry as well. Both of them had heated argument in the vehicle.
Since he was driving and he needed to concentrate, he parked his vehicle beside the road. He trekked to a nearby village to buy fruits. When he returned, he offered her fruit, then he was able to restore sanity. That little time spent on the road buying fruits calmed the whole situation.
That's practical wisdom on how to control one's temper. If he had continued the journey, he may have crashed the vehicle in anger. Some persons have died that way.
According to the scripture above, there are two things that sensible people do:
(1) They control their temper
(2) They overlook wrongs.
We all have tendencies to get angry or have gotten angry at one time or the other. Sometimes, anger is our reaction to unfulfilled expectation from others or from ourselves, the best way to curb or control our temper is never to expect much from people.
I read the experience of a revered minister online. Three months after marriage, he had serious misunderstanding with his wife. He thought in his mind, "doesn't she know I'm an Apostle"? It was God's wisdom that prevailed in his situation through his wife.
Don't think you can't be offended. In fact, expect offence from those close to you even your spouse. If you have unrealistic expectations about people, when they disappoint, you'll be angry. Keep your expectations real.
In marriage, spouses must be ready to accept the weaknesses of one another. If you are the type that don't take nonsense, marriage is not for you. Until you are ready to tolerate "nonsense," you are not fit for marriage.
Also, your ability to overlook wrongs and leave them in the past without referring to it or reacting is a huge sign of maturity. If you can imbibe these two attributes of sensible people, you'll have a sweet and lasting relationship with people, marriage inclusive.
Father, I receive grace to control my temper and overlook wrongs In Jesus name. Amen