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ANTI MARITAL SUCCESS MENTALITY Pt. 7

March 01, 2021 · Lanre Oyeleke · 25 views

Eccl10:10 If the iron be blunt, and he do not whet the edge, then must he put to more strength: but wisdom is profitable to direct.

I PITY HIM...I WILL MARRY HIM

Jane and John courted for two years. Both families met for the traditional introduction as their marital future became closer. Their relationship started when John sought the counsel of Jane on how to handle his addiction to Cannabis. Jane is a trained counselor and life coach. John's family knew about his addiction and how he decided to get counsel from a professional counselor. They were happy to know that their son was engaged to Jane, a counselor. John's parents felt she was the right person for John.

Jane accepted John's proposal for marriage out of pity. She felt she shouldn't leave John to his fate and that she could be useful at some point in case there was a relapse. Truthfully, John didn't overcome his addiction to cannabis but he became more discrete about it. Jane caught him smoking cannabis severally but John would beg her and even engage his parents to appeal to her not to leave him alone. Out of pity for his despicable condition, Jane stayed in that relationship till they tied the knots. Six months into the marriage, John became uncontrollable and that caused a separation.

Starting a relationship out of pity shows lack of love. True love is born of out of rationality not out of a wave of emotions. Only genuine love sustains a marriage. Pity has nothing to do with a healthy marriage. Love comes from within and cannot be spearheaded by pity. This means marriages sealed out of pity never last. If you start a relationship out of pity, you'll end up being pitied.

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I receive the grace to act right in Jesus name

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