A young girl told me her dream is to marry a pastor. She also said she want to be called Pastor Mrs. That's a good one isn't it? Quickly, I told her that in marriage, what matters most in making a good choice is not the status of the person but his fruit.
I observed that some make marital decisions from the standpoint of status. If the brother is tongue-speaking, prayerful, very punctual in church services, can preach or teach, they assume he is good for marriage.
Some brothers on the other hand love sisters that can sing especially those that have ministry inclination. They always hunt for the most visible chorister in church. They love those sisters with Charisma and those ones that can prophesy. As good as these things are, it is unwise to make a marital choice based on these things.
What makes a brother or sister good enough for marriage is the fruit of the Spirit not gifts.
In my few years of pastoring, I have seen marriages of gifted men and women fail. I have seen men with great anointing beat their wives. I mean real "anointed" beating. In fact, some will mount pulpit and great things will still happen in their ministrations. I have seen gifted women throw tantrums like babies.
Being a preacher or pastor is not what makes one mature and good for marriage. Don't forget that God's calling and gifting is by election of grace not necessarily because the person has attained some level of maturity.
Dear singles, do not be carried away by gifts and status of a brother/sister in church, please check the fruit the life of that person is producing. If the life of that person is not patterned after Christ, do not go ahead with that relationship even If you see him in a vision.
Visions and revelations are not enough to make a marital choice. I have not said God doesn't speak through visions. My point is that the life of the person you see in vision must align with the word of God you can read with your two eyes.
Do not compromise on basic christian values because a brother or sister is gifted. We marry fruit not gift.
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